How to Stop Emotional Meltdown

About to split with my partner of 7 years of whom if which I have 2 beautiful children and just don't know what to do. I need money to get myself setup in a new place suitable for the kids to stay at as I cannot stay here anymore. Our relationship is toxicI had a break down last weekend. How do I do this

I have separated from my Wife of 13 years, due to falling in love with someone else. I have left my wife and been back 3 times due to horrible feeling of guilt and missing my 2 children. Son of 13 and daughter of 11. I am in a horrible mess, where I have left my lover and dangerously in contact with my wife, who has false hope of our relationship. I am here as I am struggling to deal with guilt of leaving the children.

@ Larry - I am absolutely appauled by your response and I am a female!!! There is a lot going on in Steve's relationship and it's not just about access to his son! He has obviously taken on the role of another mans child and loves the little girl but wants to spend time with his own son.He does not say that he doesn't want to play with the little girl, he is saying that based on the 1 HOUR slot his ex had allocated him, he wanted to spend it with his son and then take the little girl out afterwards... what is wrong with that???I think it's fair! The fact that his ex's mother is involved means that there is a 3rd voice (unwanted on his part) in the relationship when it should only be him and the mother of his child!! could the mothers interference be part of the reason for the split??You cannot judge someone until you have walked in their shoes! The accusation against him must be heartbreaking, but an investigation must be conducted before access can be determined.... until then... he is not allowed to see his child.... I do not think for one second that he should be grateful to her just because she is the mother of his child!!she is the female who could destroy his life if she is found to by lying to prevent him from seeing his child!!!

CAFCAS wouldn't stop you seeing your son based on an accusation, there must be something a bit more severe as they always believe a father should have contact with their children!if you both had an agreement on when you were going round to see your son why would you expect that to be changed because you couldn't make your original time, you should have thought yourself lucky been able to see him every day, as with me and many other fathers out there were only allowed to see our children on a weekend for one day,from my experience when me and my mrs were together she breast fed our children and blimey they never seemed to be away from her, that lasted for around 5-6 months and she couldn't express any milk either......in my honest opinion if you were this father figure you certainly wouldn't complain about having to play with her little girl whilst you were visiting your son, i know for a fact i would have never complained nor would i have left my mrs whilst pregnant, so in actual fact your making this lass to sound like she's a horrible person, but she carried your son for 9 months, breast fed him for how ever long and has provided and cared for him alone all this time, mate you should be really grateful to her, at the end of the day she is still the mother of your child!!!

I split up with my girlfriend 14 months ago while she was pregnant, I left cos she had been stealing off me, I would work for up to 80 hours a week then come home and she would say I didn't do enough housework "DIY didn't count" she didn't work although she was a full time mum but would spend at least 4 hours a day every day gossiping round at her mums. Arguments were becoming more and more regular. We had been together and I had been a farther figure to her daughter for 18 months. I thought it would be better for us to split when we did then we could concentrate on being good parents. I carried on supporting her after we split, helping her with gardening, taking her shopping and for days out, I payed for her daughters Birthday party. When I moved out she helped me pick the flat to make sure it was siutible for children the flat was only 1/4 mile away from her house and her daughter came and stayed with me in her own double room every other weekend. I noticed a change after I payed for the Birthday Party I had just been made redundant so wasn't working when her 4 year old daughter had an assembly at school where she was in a play and all parents were invited, my ex didn't tell me about it and the first I knew was seeing a comet about it on her Facebook wall. Thenext thing was a fathers day card, In the past we had always encouraged her to right out or at least sign cards herself but this one was only wrote out and signed bye her mum I don't think her daughter had even seen it. When my son was born I was aloud at the birth but was called at the last minuet, my ex's mum had always been in the picture and they both insisted I needed to go out and get my son a coat to take him home in, I believe this was just to get me out the way. When the baby came home I was aloud to spend about 1 hour a day round at the house but in that time I was expected to play with the little girl as well I couldn't take her out sepratly afterwords, if my son was asleep I wasn't aloud to disturb him I wasn't aloud to spend much time with him at all. One day I had a job interview at the time I was due to go round and I told his mum in advance and asked if I would be able to see him in the evening instead she said "no cos I've got a friend coming round" I said I thought it was unfair I couldn't see my son just cos she had a friend coming round. Her reply was I was being too controlling and she wasn't going to let me see any of the kids again until we had sorted things threw the solicitors. That was when he was 2 weeks old and he is now 9 months. She refused mediation, said I couldn't see him in a contact centre cos she was exclusively breast feeding and couldn't express milk that was up until he was 6 months old. She then accused me of indecently touching her daughter, CAFCAS have said I can't have contact until I've had a phycological assessment because of what she's accusing me of and cos of problems and mistakes I'd made in my childhood. Now I'm sti