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Can someone please help and advise me. I was in a relationship for just under years with my ex-partner. We have a 5 month old boy. I have been very involved in his life and he is my world. Until 4 days ago he and my ex-partner lived with me. It turns out i was involved with the wrong person. Our relationship was already established when i found out she was an illegal immigrant. I now have thoughts that maybe she has been using me to stay in the UK. Since my boy was born my ex-partner has changed completely towards me. No respect, no due care or consideration and our relationship has broken down completely, culminating in her running away with him at midnight on Friday. She does not have his best intentions in mind. She was more concerned with packing her clothes and belonging but left everything for my son her, and i mean everything! Clothes, toys, sterlizer (even if she does claim it is no longer needed) bath, moses basket, cot, changing matt etc. My boy also sleeps from 6/7pm onwards but she left at 23:15 and not arriving at her new place until well gone midnight. I suggested she waited until morning and get a bus so he could sleep but she began stamping her feet and threatening to scream if i did not pass my son to her. He was very distressed when taken away and i have that recorded on video. I receive universal credit and child benefit to help maintain them both, which has caused arguements as she is not entitled to any benefits (being illegal in the UK). These benefits are now lost as i only receive them if my son is living with me. She is not entitled to work but does so illegally. I offered to pay for her to rent a room only a few doors down out of the universal credit but she was against this. She also has not followed any of the general safety advice provided to us by the health visitors and has not followed safe sleep guidance which we were told to strictly follow to prevent SIDS. On occasions that i have reminded her of this when i have often found him left on the edge of the bed, or dressed in too many clothes, hot room with windows closed, loose blankets left in cot with him, left to sleep in a separate room alone, sleeps in the bed with her etc, this has also led to arguments with her stating that "no one can tell me how to raise my child!". Her behaviour has also been irrational with me being told off for opening windows, having the tv on, or making any noise such as opening a packet of crisps that might disturb his sleep! (it has not and does not). Yet she is happy to take him to a concert with amplified rock music and seems oblivious that it can be damaging to his hearing! She often obstructs my role as a father often taking him from my arms, telling me im not allowed to speak to him when she feels he needs to settle and interfering in many other ways. I have spoken with health visitors and social services who do not seem concerned. I miss my boy, i want him back home where i know he is safe and that i am bette

Can someone please help and advise me. I was in a relationship for just under years with my ex-partner. We have a 5 month old boy. I have been very involved in his life and he is my world. Until 4 days ago he and my ex-partner lived with me. It turns out i was involved with the wrong person. Our relationship was already established when i found out she was an illegal immigrant. I now have thoughts that maybe she has been using me to stay in the UK. Since my boy was born my ex-partner has changed completely towards me. No respect, no due care or consideration and our relationship has broken down completely, culminating in her running away with him at midnight on Friday. She does not have his best intentions in mind. She was more concerned with packing her clothes and belonging but left everything for my son her, and i mean everything! Clothes, toys, sterlizer (even if she does claim it is no longer needed) bath, moses basket, cot, changing matt etc. My boy also sleeps from 6/7pm onwards but she left at 23:15 and not arriving at her new place until well gone midnight. I suggested she waited until morning and get a bus so he could sleep but she began stamping her feet and threatening to scream if i did not pass my son to her. He was very distressed when taken away and i have that recorded on video. I receive universal credit and child benefit to help maintain them both, which has caused arguements as she is not entitled to any benefits (being illegal in the UK). These benefits are now lost as i only receive them if my son is living with me. She is not entitled to work but does so illegally. I offered to pay for her to rent a room only a few doors down out of the universal credit but she was against this. She also has not followed any of the general safety advice provided to us by the health visitors and has not followed safe sleep guidance which we were told to strictly follow to prevent SIDS. On occasions that i have reminded her of this when i have often found him left on the edge of the bed, or dressed in too many clothes, hot room with windows closed, loose blankets left in cot with him, left to sleep in a separate room alone, sleeps in the bed with her etc, this has also led to arguments with her stating that "no one can tell me how to raise my child!". Her behaviour has also been irrational with me being told off for opening windows, having the tv on, or making any noise such as opening a packet of crisps that might disturb his sleep! (it has not and does not). Yet she is happy to take him to a concert with amplified rock music and seems oblivious that it can be damaging to his hearing! She often obstructs my role as a father often taking him from my arms, telling me im not allowed to speak to him when she feels he needs to settle and interfering in many other ways. I have spoken with health visitors and social services who do not seem concerned. I miss my boy, i want him back home where i know he is safe and that i am bette

Can someone please help and advise me. I was in a relationship for just under years with my ex-partner. We have a 5 month old boy. I have been very involved in his life and he is my world. Until 4 days ago he and my ex-partner lived with me. It turns out i was involved with the wrong person. Our relationship was already established when i found out she was an illegal immigrant. I now have thoughts that maybe she has been using me to stay in the UK. Since my boy was born my ex-partner has changed completely towards me. No respect, no due care or consideration and our relationship has broken down completely, culminating in her running away with him at midnight on Friday. She does not have his best intentions in mind. She was more concerned with packing her clothes and belonging but left everything for my son her, and i mean everything! Clothes, toys, sterlizer (even if she does claim it is no longer needed) bath, moses basket, cot, changing matt etc. My boy also sleeps from 6/7pm onwards but she left at 23:15 and not arriving at her new place until well gone midnight. I suggested she waited until morning and get a bus so he could sleep but she began stamping her feet and threatening to scream if i did not pass my son to her. He was very distressed when taken away and i have that recorded on video. I receive universal credit and child benefit to help maintain them both, which has caused arguements as she is not entitled to any benefits (being illegal in the UK). These benefits are now lost as i only receive them if my son is living with me. She is not entitled to work but does so illegally. I offered to pay for her to rent a room only a few doors down out of the universal credit but she was against this. She also has not followed any of the general safety advice provided to us by the health visitors and has not followed safe sleep guidance which we were told to strictly follow to prevent SIDS. On occasions that i have reminded her of this when i have often found him left on the edge of the bed, or dressed in too many clothes, hot room with windows closed, loose blankets left in cot with him, left to sleep in a separate room alone, sleeps in the bed with her etc, this has also led to arguments with her stating that "no one can tell me how to raise my child!". Her behaviour has also been irrational with me being told off for opening windows, having the tv on, or making any noise such as opening a packet of crisps that might disturb his sleep! (it has not and does not). Yet she is happy to take him to a concert with amplified rock music and seems oblivious that it can be damaging to his hearing! She often obstructs my role as a father often taking him from my arms, telling me im not allowed to speak to him when she feels he needs to settle and interfering in many other ways. I have spoken with health visitors and social services who do not seem concerned. I miss my boy, i want him back home where i know he is safe and that i am bette

Any advice is welcome! I’m seeking advice on behalf of my brother. His son is now 5 years old, and has not been with her since before he was born. She did not put him on the birth certificate, and last been completely cohesively controlling my brother throughout. She allows him from 10.30 until 3.30 every 2 weeks on a Sunday, the travel to where he lives is best part of 2 hours each way. She is refusing to allow him to stay overnight for no reason. It’s really getting to us and we don’t know where to start with getting a court order or anything in place that she cannot override without consequence. Please help!

About 12 years ago I ended up leaving my ex-husband as he was too controlling.I said that I would leave our son with him as I have epilepsy.For the first two years I still got to see my son and it was great. Then my ex told me that I had done my job and given him a son so now he wanted a normal woman instead. Obviously that was horrid and shortly after Court proceedings started.I wouldn't give up my boy,it was terrible.I was in and out of court loads of times,and several times he has had me arrested when he's lied and the police never checked- like that I was at the family home to speak to himhe told the police that I was trespassing yet now we've been to another hearing and I was given 50% of the house as my name was on the deeds.It's over eight years now since I have seen my son.God only knows what my ex has told him.I might be dead,in prison or living in Australia.

Hi I need some help just over 3 years ago my gf had me arrested and charged she led me to be leave she still loved her ex husband it did upset me I stormed out the house kicked the bin shouted loud when I left I kicked the wheelie bin then not long I text her asking why we had a 4 month old daughter I text her few times she not Reply so I got done for it held 5 days at police station went to court got fined 600 pound and 12 month order put on me I will stress no violence I don't hit women then few months into order she went to court ask them to revoke it they said no we got back together last year we had another baby daughter born 31 12 19 sods law she done it again kicked me out in lock down 1 she let me see my children on her terms I travel 60 mile round trip up until October 20 she see me in same town with my other children its a seaside town my older daughter love it there I treated her to a day out my ex c us there sent me a message saying f.... Of I'm not cing my daughter I tried writing a few times no reply I sent money by post food parcel Xmas presents by taxi I not been to house now she reported me to police because I sent a little gift from my girls to there mummy I'm jusy trying to be a daddy do nice things I'm so scared I lost my daughters 1 is only 13 months other is 4 I need help sorry very long message

@rick you should go ahead and file c100 to see child. You should get free consultation with solicitor about your property issue. That will probably be another court application

Hi, I have been separated from my wife for over 2 years now. We have a daughter together who is 16months old - I have only seen my daughter a handful of times. My wife is very undermining of me and always wants me to see our daughter supervised by her own family, these people have assaulted me and made false allegations against me in the past. Social services have been involved due to domestic violence from me and my wife. I have written up the c100 form and now extremely worried that my wife might try to frame and get an order against me. She badmouthed me to my family, extended family and her family - they have called and harassed me. Please advice shall I go ahead with c100 to see my daughter - concerned that wife will put NMO. My wife has also changed the locks and keys to own jointly owned property. She. Has not given me keys and has not told me or notified me, I have not agreed/consented to this tenancy agreement and the tenants have moved in. Where do I stand as joint landlord, what are my rights?

Hi, I have been separated from my wife for over 2 years now. We have a daughter together who is 16months old - I have only seen my daughter a handful of times. My wife is very undermining of me and always wants me to see our daughter supervised by her own family, these people have assaulted me and made false allegations against me in the past. Social services have been involved due to domestic violence from me and my wife. I have written up the c100 form and now extremely worried that my wife might try to frame and get an order against me. She badmouthed me to my family, extended family and her family - they have called and harassed me. Please advice shall I go ahead with c100 to see my daughter - concerned that wife will put NMO. My wife has also changed the locks and keys to own jointly owned property. She. Has not given me keys and has not told me or notified me, I have not agreed/consented to this tenancy agreement and the tenants have moved in. Where do I stand as joint landlord, what are my rights?

My husband's ex doesn't let my husband see the child Solicitor asking for too much money Can we start all the procedure by ourselves,

@gaz.i just heard the mother has blood cancer I hope she dies slow painful death and she dyed her child’s hair blonde so she can have a mini me .in my personal opinion the child will turn out like her mother anyway .apparently the child what to no my heritage all she got to do is watch 60 minutes she will learn about me and my family then just type in my surname and my home town .yeah all my family are a little bit crazy we have a splash mental health issues but hey she wants to learn about my heritage and who daddy is .

@gaz.if childs mother reads I hope she does for her (safety) stay away from my house and stop following me because I will( shot you for my honour Iswear on the bible and it doesn’t matter if I am (70 years old if you come near me I will shot you (dead )I swear on the bible ).now I sincerely means this it is my (last post) I am asking for you people to leave this post up for this (women safety ).

@gaz.They can (resent) me as much as they want i am (never coming back) or ever living the same( lifestyle )I once lived with a (cheating women ).i have self respect now and one thing I have (learnt) in my life there are so many (younger prettier women out there )I was selling myself short when I was younger gods truth I settled for a older women with a child for god sake when I was 20 years old foolish little boy I was back then .yeah I have come along way sence then .seen I photo off this women Jesus she must off had a (hard life) because damn she looks old and beat down .as for child (stay with your mother I think she is going to need you) if I am honest.

@gaz.i don’t want to get better because there is nothing wrong with me I see clearer then I have in my whole life .everything I do is for a (reason) I could have went and got a solicitor years ago i had a good (inheritance) so money wasn’t a issues and you could say I was on the (street) but I put myself there I was experiencing something different i was (reinventing myself )plus I was (working )just didn’t have a house I had a (Ute )and meet some off the best people in my life in fact it was the best time in my life (gods truth )I free from the boring normal existence I once lived having a women and kids doing old family thing .it might have looked (crazy) to my family but it was something I needed to do I was single I had money didn’t have children I wanted to see my country and I did just that .the child is a teenager now so I need to go to court .

After reading some of these forums I would like to add some things and hope it helps. I went through a separation that led me to be on the streets, I almost lost my life to starvation and completely lost my way. After finally receiving help, I was told to take 12 months recovery, this was away from my children. I fully focussed on getting better and I approached for re-contact, my ex had moved and shut down all ways of contact. When we finally found them and got to court, this had taken a further 2 years, she had managed to prolong contact all that time, she had another man and had my children calling him ‘Dad’. I represented myself in court with all the facts, I seen off two different solicitors and after a long fight I won my case. Now I’m seeing them my ex is breaching the order and also alienating the children to the point that they are again refusing to come to me, therefore, after the first case of CAFCASS considering me for full custody, I will now be going back into court for that reason! There are many free advice centres out there that will attend in court with you as a majestic friend, they can not speak on your behalf, but can take notes and prompt you at times throughout the hearing. Look up local community law services in your area. Hope this info can help any parent out there.

@Anfield1892 - if your cousin's ex doesn't show - the court can decide in her absence.

Hi, Mu cousin is currently in the stage of trying to gain visitation of his child. The mother decided to up and move overnight. She has moved to Yeovil from Leeds (200 miles away). The child has expressed his desire to see his father and there are no safeguarding concerns and he has been ever present in his child’s life.(issue seems to stem from father beginning a relationship with a new woman although they have been separated nearly 7 yrs). The mother has not engaged with the courts so far and failed to attend the first hearing (later found out she had not been served the papers) and mediation. The next hearing has been set for next week 14/11 but we do feast that she won’t show at court. This will mean a third hearing but will drag out beyond Xmas. Is my cousin able to get a special visitation order so that he can see his son over the holidays even though the case will be ongoing? Any advice is appreciated.

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You can see more via the Bar Council link here , which should help answer your question.

Hi I relieved a letter and Dates for courts .one will be ugent court second one first hearing .was lookinh for solicitors but end up like I need to change my statement (previous solicitors did wrong ) and I need barrister (£1250) can’t afford than course is next week . Can I present my self ? Courtis to put In place arrangement child and prevent removed my kid from uk . (But on my statement says I am ok if she moves with arrangement) Can I just go my self to court ?

Hello, sorry I am not a separated father but a divorced mother, and I am at my wits end with my ex. He left me and my two kids, now 14 and 11, for another woman 6 years ago, and ever since Contact has been fraut because his priority has been his girlfriend, something he admitted in mediation! After leaving us, he quickly became a father again, this put extra pressure on this new relationship and as a result when arguing with his girlfriend he tried to hit her over the head with a baking tray, missed her and hit their new baby on the head, then as his girlfriend was trying to get out the house he smashed her head against the front door, he was convicted of assault and battery. Luckily my children were not with him. He only told me of this incident when social services where about to contact me. I have always wanted my kids to have Contact with their father, my only proviso was to know where they would be overnighting and I could contact them! This became an issue when they moved house, his girlfriend then threatened him she would move back up north if I ever found out the address. He then chose in front of a court to only see his children 4hrs every 2 weeks because he wouldn’t disclose there address. There was no reason for them not to disclose the address other than their guilt and paranoia. He took me to court over access but stopped proceedings when he realised he wouldn’t like what the court would make him do. I have offered him 2 weekends a month and half the holidays, this does not fit into his new life and wants to pick and choose when he wants them! We have come up with several Contact plans, always what he wants, but when he breaks arrangements I stop Contact and we are back to square one. Last weekend he picked my children up from school, it was his weekend, told them he was getting married the next day, then confiscated their phones, and took them to a unknown location. I couldn’t contact my kids and didn’t know where they were! I can’t trust him, he doesn’t put the kids first and just put them in an impossible situation!! My daughter who is 14 now, told me they bad mouth me all the time and it makes them feel really uncomfortable! My sons behaviour at home is shocking, I have had to sign him up to anger management classes at school! I have taken them both to councilling, they said there dad and girlfriend argue all the time, and I am afraid there will be another incident like before! I would rather not involve a solicitor as our divorce cost a fortune just to sort the finances. I believe I need some sort of court order so he stops messing us about!! He says he has joint custody which is just a joke! I am the resident parent, he lives 1.5 hrs away from his kids! I want to know where I stand, if a court order is something I can get, he is a convicted criminal and last weekend he as good as kidnapped my kids! Any advice would be great thanks!

Hi,I have been separated from my youngest daughters mum for almost 3 years, there were overnight stays on and off for my daughter up until November 2016. She still let's me see her when it suits her but everything on her terms, there was never an issue until I started seeing someone in April last year (even though she moved someone in after 5 weeks of our split) I have also received a letter from cma saying I need to pay more than the 150 she already gets as there are no overnight stays, both myself and my daughter who is 7 are desperate for things to get back to normal yet my ex insists on being awkward and has obviously partly done this to get more money out of me. I have spent almost 2000 in solicitors fees yet the outcome has been appalling as she will not respond or get a solicitor until I take her to court! This would cost me another 8000 my solicitor has stated, money I would rather spend on my daughter is might add. I have tried to work things out also but to no avail and court is the only option. Advice please?? Thank you in advance

Hi, I sent in C100 court papers 8 days ago and today I have received a text from my ex saying thankyou for putting the court papers in. This seem extremely quick for a court to cash my cheque and start proceedings by writing to my ex. I'm a little suspicious as she filed for divorce about 8 weeks ago and I refused, am I right in assuming that the family court papers wouldn't of arrived to her so soon ?

Hi guys I separated from my wife and she has stopped me from seeing the kids by getting them to tell me they no longer want to see me Can I represent my case to a court by myself as she has gone through the csa for child support and I can't afford to get a solicitor and not eligible for legal aidI need help what can I do

Hi guys, myself and my ex broke up a couple of months ago. I am not on my daughter's birth certificate however I have paperwork from CSA stating my ex has informed them I am the father and need to pay. (Which I am). My ex is adiment i am neve4 alo7d to See my daughter again and has even gone as far as to tell people I'm not safe to be around kids. (She has no evidence of this) and there is no truth in it. Ive also informed the police of what she's been saying. I know she won't willingly attend mediation so i was wondering what my other options are? I cant afford a solicitor. Thanks in advance

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You may find our Separated Dads forum useful here. I'll also put this question to our Separated Dads Facebook page, please refer to the page for answers. Good luck.

Hi my ex wife and I broke up nearly 4 years ago and got divorced last year. I've been with my current partner for 3 years in that time she's made it difficult to see my daughter but since my partner got pregnant she has stopped me seeing my daughter for the last 8 months. I've been to mediation which she refused to attended so I've now applied for c100 application to the court. I've representing myself at court as I have parental rights and there's no child protection act or domestic violence so was advised it would be straight forward at court. Would anyone be able to help me about what the court will be like representing myself and how long the process will be so I have some advise please! Thank you

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I am sorry to hear this. You would have to apply through court for a c100 contact order and a C4 form which is an application for an order for disclosure of a child's whereabouts. This will allow the court to trace your son in order to allow you to apply for contact. If you have parental responsibility you ex should have asked your permission to move out of the area with your son.

Hey I need some advice I am 21 years old and I have a 3 year son .I split up with my ex about a year ago .I tried to have my son every other weekend as I work away and whenever she wanted to go out which was most weekends.She has currently met someone else and has moved somewhere else but I do not know where I have tried to contact her to see my son but she has blocked my calls blocked me on social media .tried to contact her Mum But she has done the same as well .It has been 2 months of trying to see him but has no success .I need some advice on what to do as I'm stuck .

I have recived my court date and my ex as had here say Sbe put the court application So what about to my defence how do I go about that a speedy reply woulf be handy if anybody knows.