What Goes into the Cafcass Family Report?
For an agency that’s not well known, Cafcass (the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) wields an awful lot of power. Whenever parents can’t agree over an application for a Contact Order, they become involved, compiling a report on the family, both parents and children. The document they produce carries a great deal of weight with the Family Court.
Both Cafcass and Family Court have undergone their share of controversy, the first for some of the content of their reports and its methodology, the second for operating in relative secrecy. Cafcass presents its report as a completed document at court, and interested parties have no chance to challenge it beforehand, although they are sent copies.
Who Compiles The Cafcass Report?
The Cafcass Staff who compile the reports are known as Children and Family Reporters. It’s their job to interview both parents in the case, as well as the children, and any others who might be needed, which could mean social workers, medical professionals, or even relatives.The Reporters are social workers themselves, but their qualifications don’t go beyond that (one criticism levelled at them is that they sometimes make observations that go beyond their field of expertise, such as in the medical area).
From the interviews they conduct, the Reporter will determine two things: whether there should be contact allowed, and, if so, how much. It’s a measure of how important the Cafcass recommendation is that the court will almost invariably adhere to it.
The Cafcass Report Process
The building blocks of the Cafcass report are the interviews the reporters carry out. They talk to both parents, generally quite extensively, although not necessarily in a home setting, which can leave people uneasy in an unfamiliar environment.Since the report takes around 10 weeks to compile, a number of people are interviewed, a wide range, and there are instances when the court will ask the Reporter to talk to a specific person, for instance a health visitor.
The Reporter will inform parents about the people they’ll interview, which will include the police and a check of the Child Protection Register – that’s standard, and shouldn’t alarm anyone.
Of course, they’ll also want to interview any children involved, as long as they’re old enough. Part of the responsibility of the court is to take the wishes of the children into account where possible, although that doesn’t mean that will necessarily happen. It’s vital that the Reporter remains neutral with the child and doesn’t ask him or her to take sides.
Criticism of Cafcass Reports
Although most Cafcass reports are fine, there have been a number of criticisms thrown at Reporters. These can be for inappropriate remarks, or ones that are unqualified. For instance, a report might mention “domestic violence” in a relationship, without explaining what the violence is (it could, in fact, be something as trivial as sulking). There have been occasions when the Reporter has included nothing in the report about the wishes of the child, even when the child is old enough to expresses preferences and opinions. At times reports haven’t included pertinent information about the children, such as learning difficulties.In other words, the reports aren’t perfect, and where a person finds failing in the report, there are grounds to ask for it to be disregarded – that can be entirely or just in part – or to be discredited. There have been occasions when the court has made it decision based on a bad report. When that’s happened, the bad report constitutes grounds for appeal.
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Gazza - 19-Jul-21 @ 12:30 AM
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I am a woman who had the misfortune of falling for a narcissist conman, someone who love bombed, made himself out to be responsible and caring before discarding when he had secured his target into position. He went on to steal, gaslight, lie to his family and friends to triangulate, use for a place to stay as required whilst being inconclusive about whether he was with his family or not...had his family lie. I had mutual friends tell me he was lying to another party who he couuldnt care less about because she was thick and didnt challenge him.This man chose benders over his commitments to see his kid. He stopped paying what his child was entitled to because he had to pay for someone else he was using for a place to stay...carried on denying it all to lead his family on until proof came out...
I found out he started lying in 2017, apparently telling some random he cared because she was easy...this us what men do...sad isnt it
Vic Tims... - 24-Feb-21 @ 12:42 AM
Hi so my partner is going through court with his ex patner she has lied through her teeth about alligations and we have photographic evidence of bruises on one of the children this child in particular has stated to the school that mom has been physical and stated to CPU to also stated to a number of authorities that thry want to live with dad . Only caffcass haven't requested this evidence to look at. And havnt pulled the mother up on her lies. Even though you can clearly see she has contridicted her self alot. Can i contact the caffcass officer on behalf of my partner with these images my self or could this just make things worse.
Liz - 9-Jan-21 @ 12:30 PM
Hi there got Cafcass report is this alarming or common
Analysis of issues arising from safeguarding or risk identification
Safeguarding checks are complete.
The information currently available suggests that Ib may have been exposed to parental domestic abuse. It is alleged that Ib*** has been present and witnessed the abuse and that he has been put at risk of both emotional and physical harm himself when caught up in the middle of incidents.
Ib *** has not had any contact with his father for over a year and if what mother reports is true his last contact with his father may have been a very frightening one. Ib*** needs to have all his needs met in an emotionally warm environment free from exposure to parental domestic abuse and risk of physical and emotional harm.
The court is going to require more information to ensure that future arrangements for Ib are safe and in his best interests. The following advice is offered to the court:-
? This matter is not considered suitable for mediation or Separated Parents Information Programme.
? The court may benefit from disclosure of the assessment completed by H*** Local Authority and parties providing statements dealing with the alleged domestic abuse against mother and any against Ib***
? The court may then be in a better position to clarify whether the alleged abuse is going to be determinative and whether any fact finding is required.
? The issue of Ibraheem spending time with his father is going to require further assessment by way of a s7 report. Such a report would be completed by Cafcass but could not commence until after any fact finding has been concluded, should it be required.
? The author of the s7 report will assess whether contact is safe and appropriate and include recommendations in the report.
? Court may benefit from enhanced police checks which would provide more detail on any involvement with family.
? If available the Cafcass officer may be able to provide the court with any further assistance required
Khan - 20-Dec-19 @ 8:05 PM
Hi there got Cafcass report is this alarming or common
Analysis of issues arising from safeguarding or risk identification
Safeguarding checks are complete.
The information currently available suggests that Ib may have been exposed to parental domestic abuse. It is alleged that Ib*** has been present and witnessed the abuse and that he has been put at risk of both emotional and physical harm himself when caught up in the middle of incidents.
Ib *** has not had any contact with his father for over a year and if what mother reports is true his last contact with his father may have been a very frightening one. Ib*** needs to have all his needs met in an emotionally warm environment free from exposure to parental domestic abuse and risk of physical and emotional harm.
The court is going to require more information to ensure that future arrangements for Ib are safe and in his best interests. The following advice is offered to the court:-
? This matter is not considered suitable for mediation or Separated Parents Information Programme.
? The court may benefit from disclosure of the assessment completed by H*** Local Authority and parties providing statements dealing with the alleged domestic abuse against mother and any against Ib***
? The court may then be in a better position to clarify whether the alleged abuse is going to be determinative and whether any fact finding is required.
? The issue of Ibraheem spending time with his father is going to require further assessment by way of a s7 report. Such a report would be completed by Cafcass but could not commence until after any fact finding has been concluded, should it be required.
? The author of the s7 report will assess whether contact is safe and appropriate and include recommendations in the report.
? Court may benefit from enhanced police checks which would provide more detail on any involvement with family.
? If available the Cafcass officer may be able to provide the court with any further assistance required
Khan - 20-Dec-19 @ 7:27 PM
Hi there got Cafcass report is this alarming or common
Analysis of issues arising from safeguarding or risk identification
Safeguarding checks are complete.
The information currently available suggests that Ib may have been exposed to parental domestic abuse. It is alleged that Ib*** has been present and witnessed the abuse and that he has been put at risk of both emotional and physical harm himself when caught up in the middle of incidents.
Ib *** has not had any contact with his father for over a year and if what mother reports is true his last contact with his father may have been a very frightening one. Ib*** needs to have all his needs met in an emotionally warm environment free from exposure to parental domestic abuse and risk of physical and emotional harm.
The court is going to require more information to ensure that future arrangements for Ib are safe and in his best interests. The following advice is offered to the court:-
? This matter is not considered suitable for mediation or Separated Parents Information Programme.
? The court may benefit from disclosure of the assessment completed by H*** Local Authority and parties providing statements dealing with the alleged domestic abuse against mother and any against Ib***
? The court may then be in a better position to clarify whether the alleged abuse is going to be determinative and whether any fact finding is required.
? The issue of Ibraheem spending time with his father is going to require further assessment by way of a s7 report. Such a report would be completed by Cafcass but could not commence until after any fact finding has been concluded, should it be required.
? The author of the s7 report will assess whether contact is safe and appropriate and include recommendations in the report.
? Court may benefit from enhanced police checks which would provide more detail on any involvement with family.
? If available the Cafcass officer may be able to provide the court with any further assistance required
Khan - 20-Dec-19 @ 6:33 PM
Hi there got Cafcass report is this alarming or common
Analysis of issues arising from safeguarding or risk identification
Safeguarding checks are complete.
The information currently available suggests that Ib may have been exposed to parental domestic abuse. It is alleged that Ib*** has been present and witnessed the abuse and that he has been put at risk of both emotional and physical harm himself when caught up in the middle of incidents.
Ib *** has not had any contact with his father for over a year and if what mother reports is true his last contact with his father may have been a very frightening one. Ib*** needs to have all his needs met in an emotionally warm environment free from exposure to parental domestic abuse and risk of physical and emotional harm.
The court is going to require more information to ensure that future arrangements for Ib are safe and in his best interests. The following advice is offered to the court:-
? This matter is not considered suitable for mediation or Separated Parents Information Programme.
? The court may benefit from disclosure of the assessment completed by H*** Local Authority and parties providing statements dealing with the alleged domestic abuse against mother and any against Ib***
? The court may then be in a better position to clarify whether the alleged abuse is going to be determinative and whether any fact finding is required.
? The issue of Ibraheem spending time with his father is going to require further assessment by way of a s7 report. Such a report would be completed by Cafcass but could not commence until after any fact finding has been concluded, should it be required.
? The author of the s7 report will assess whether contact is safe and appropriate and include recommendations in the report.
? Court may benefit from enhanced police checks which would provide more detail on any involvement with family.
? If available the Cafcass officer may be able to provide the court with any further assistance required
Khan - 20-Dec-19 @ 5:24 PM
Some detail about me and child I m 40 , no criminal record orprosecution nor any mental problem ,,my child is 5 years old
I had separation from wife last year she alleged me fordomestic abuse which is not proven
Recently I made my child contact or arrangementin court as mother was not allowing me to meet my child only allowing for supervised contact
recently Cafcass has done it safe guard with nothing alarming
My question would court allow to me to meet my child freely or there would be some limitations in meeting or prohibition?
Can child can stay with me few days like in weekend ?
Can I request courtmy child passport to held by court ?As I may doubt he would be abducted to back country ?
Khan - 20-Dec-19 @ 5:19 PM
Some detail about me and child
I m 40 , no criminal record orprosecution nor any mental problem ,,my child is 5 years old
I had separation from wife last year she alleged me fordomestic abuse which is not proven
Recently I made my child contact or arrangementin court as mother was not allowing me to meet my child only allowing for supervised contact
recently Cafcass has done it safe guard with nothing alarming
My question would court allow to me to meet my child freely or there would be some limitations in meeting or prohibition?
Can child can stay with me few days like in weekend ?
Can I request courtmy child passport to held by court ?As I may doubt he would be abducted to back country ?
Khan - 20-Dec-19 @ 5:13 PM
Went to court caffcass recommended supervised contact where my parents would supervise but in a interim but before we went in court my exs solicitor said her client my ex didn't wat this and therefore its not been allowed
Dobbs - 1-Apr-19 @ 11:00 AM
I separated from my wife in February 2017. 2 months later she made a criminal complaint against me. She alleged I had subjected her too controlling and coercive behavior and had assaulted her.
Fortunately I was able to provide the police with a lot of material to undermine her complaint and I was not prosecuted.
At the time of our separation, our son was 9 years old and he was angry with his mum for bringing the marriage to an end.
I successfully applied to the court for a child arrangement order and was able to see my son regularly for a period of 2 years.
Sadly now my son has turned against and has stated he no longer wishes to see me
He has told the cafcass advisor untruths and stated he no longer wishes to see me.
This is a very hard pill to swallow as both myself, family and friends I've shown him a great deal of love and support.
I'm of the view thatis Mum I slowly turned him against me.
Friends and family tell me to walk away and leave them to it as I could not have done any more.
Unable to do this as I am his father and I still love him daily and remember the great times we had together prior to recent events unfolding.
I I intend to address the court personally with a rational heartfelt honest statement when I attend letter this month.
I suppose what I'm asking, as any other fathers had similar experiences, what advice can they offer and will the judges listen to me
Al - 11-Feb-19 @ 10:40 AM
Hello, I’m wondering if anyone can help. My partner has had an ongoing case to see his child for almost three years now. He should have received photos, letters, be allowed to send birthday and Christmas presents etc for the last 18 months or so, however his ex hasn’t done any or this or allowed him to send any. His court hearing for his child arrangements order has now been postponed TWICE as a result of CAFCASS not filing their report in time, on both occasions. This has delayed contact with his child by 7 months. He has attended a DAPP course, as requested by the court and been present at all fact finding hearings etc, paid his child maintenance and paid for solicitor fees on top of this- costing nearly £15,000 up to present. We are just looking for some advice regarding where we stand? He hasn’t had any contact with his child since they were 2, they are now nearly 5 and therefore it’s unlikely they will remember him. CAFCASS have made this process very frustrating and he is really down because of it. Can anyone offer any advice?
Anonneedhelp - 25-Jan-19 @ 9:30 AM
Hello, I’m wondering if anyone can help. My partner has had an ongoing case to see his child for almost three years now. He should have received photos, letters, be allowed to send birthday and Christmas presents etc for the last 18 months or so, however his ex hasn’t done any or this or allowed him to send any. His court hearing for his child arrangements order has now been postponed TWICE as a result of CAFCASS not filing their report in time, on both occasions. This has delayed contact with his child by 7 months. He has attended a DAPP course, as requested by the court and been present at all fact finding hearings etc, paid his child maintenance and paid for solicitor fees on top of this- costing nearly £15,000 up to present. We are just looking for some advice regarding where we stand? He hasn’t had any contact with his child since they were 2, they are now nearly 5 and therefore it’s unlikely they will remember him. CAFCASS have made this process very frustrating and he is really down because of it. Can anyone offer any advice?
Anonneedhelp - 25-Jan-19 @ 9:30 AM
Hello, I’m wondering if anyone can help. My partner has had an ongoing case to see his child for almost three years now. He should have received photos, letters, be allowed to send birthday and Christmas presents etc for the last 18 months or so, however his ex hasn’t done any or this or allowed him to send any. His court hearing for his child arrangements order has now been postponed TWICE as a result of CAFCASS not filing their report in time, on both occasions. This has delayed contact with his child by 7 months. He has attended a DAPP course, as requested by the court and been present at all fact finding hearings etc, paid his child maintenance and paid for solicitor fees on top of this- costing nearly £15,000 up to present. We are just looking for some advice regarding where we stand? He hasn’t had any contact with his child since they were 2, they are now nearly 5 and therefore it’s unlikely they will remember him. CAFCASS have made this process very frustrating and he is really down because of it. Can anyone offer any advice?
Anonneedhelp - 24-Jan-19 @ 8:58 PM
It amazes me that mothers complain about the lack of contact fathers have with their respective children, only in most of these cases it's the mothers that prevent the contact.
Cafcass what a joke. I found most of these Reporters have been adopted or been in care themselves - so their judgement is tainted by their own experiences or viewpoint on parents - thus many men not seeing their children.
Hopefully the British government will understand that gang violence is in majority of cases, due to a lack father's contact with their respective children.
Hello Jack - 7-Dec-18 @ 8:41 PM
Still Fighting - Your Question:
Has anyone had an false allegation of abuse proven false? If so, what was the outcome? Are Cafcass interested in false allegations and the well being of the Child being in the care of a false accuser?
Our Response:
You may wish to ask your question via the Separated Dads forum, as there will be members who have gone through a similar experience and who will help advise.
SeparatedDads - 19-Jul-18 @ 12:22 PM
Has anyone had an false allegation of abuse proven false?If so, what was the outcome? Are Cafcass interested in false allegations and the well being of the Child being in the care of a false accuser?
Still Fighting - 18-Jul-18 @ 2:13 PM
@he-is-breathing-.if my child ever come to see I would slam the door in her face .thats how long it’s been .that is my thinking .my girlfriend try’s to make me see a different way I just don’t see it or get or thinking and but me onto blog about this stuff .if I am completely honest I say I see it to please her .she doesn’t no my x but my x trash gods truth if see her in the street you would the other way you wouldn’t want to be tried it but you can’t say those things to women they get upset .
Chris - 3-Jul-18 @ 8:24 PM
@is -he- breathing-.you be right mate .i tell you something none of my family or friends see there kids from there x girlfriends gods truth .its normal in my circle.my x thought she was sneaky .once she left that was it I harassed her to change number to break all ties .she was just praying I would get a solicitor but that was never going to happen .her thinking and my thinking are completely different.she is the mother it’s her job not mine .she thought I would take the child because her sister told her that because the guy of lured her away was heavy into drugs .my thinking was that’s her problem not mine .
Chris - 3-Jul-18 @ 8:04 PM
@is_he_breathing- that's awful. I hope when they are old enough in a few years (I know that's not much consolation) but at least then they can decide for themselves :(
Jaxc - 3-Jul-18 @ 2:31 PM
CAFCASS came to my house to see me and my children and it was the last time I saw my children.
We did an Easter egg hunt, made Easter eggs, went bowling in the afternoon but the children had miserable faces, my ex wife had kept them up all night. They were irritable and are very negative towards me (parental alienation?). Age 11.
CAFCASS recommend it is not appropriate for me to be near them. I intimidate them, bad influence and not happy.
I feel like I invited a wrecking ball into our home. We played some word games, CAFCASS officer reported I was belittling her. I had a timetable of activities, cafcass reported I was too ridgid and structured. Children bit off, thats because they are scared of me. There wasn't a single positive.
Maybe I should have just gone down to MacDonalds and sat outside smoking weed.
I love my children and 10 years of struggling to get contact (=10 years being denied it), constant broken court orders and now they've gone. Its heartbreaking.
is_he_breathing - 3-Jul-18 @ 9:36 AM
I'm fighting for resedency of my children at present they are with me and are doing well at school butI met another parent who had a child in the same special needs class as one of my children but he made a statement in school that needed to be investigated by the police and relevant services and we split up but now she has made contact again and has made it clear that wants to come back as the allegations have been proven to be false
Now I know my ex wife will want a safeguarding check done and although it's going to be fine I don't want to have to add this to the on going case
Will it have to be a cafcass one or one that can be done ourselves
Hidden agenda - 26-Jun-18 @ 9:00 PM
I first took my ex to court in November 2017 for contact as she had stopped it yet again I got granted contact but had to go back as disagreement on travel arrangements.
I met my new partner and I started staying at hers on a weekend also so I was close so I didn’t have to travel when I had my contact anyways the children’s mother didn’t like the idea of me being with someone else and made lies up in court stating I wasn’t consistent enough and it was effecting the children’s education but a couple weeks prior I spoke to my child’s head teacher to ask how she was doing in school etc and was told she was a very hard worker very pleasant always asking for more work to do and wished they had more children like her but cause the mother told the courts that the education was falling due to my contact or my consistency and asked the courts to stop my contact.
So the clerk asked the woman from cafcass as she said that there are no safeguarding issues at all however since the children’s mother has stated that the education has fallen I would recommend that the contact should be stopped... is there anything I can do about this as my ex is a very convincing compulsive liar
Mick - 14-Apr-18 @ 4:44 AM
Hi, My soon to be ex wife is making my time with my children very difficult, she pre arranges what and where I should take them prior to my collecting, she calls them many times when in my care saying she misses them which makes them feel guilty about being with me. she tries to make me feel like a hated person when I'm collecting my boys from there school. its becoming unbearable, I have a court arrangement in place. I have ad to block her emails and her mobile but have left her landline so she can contact the boys when I have them. she seems to have this control issue and demands I do this and that with words like immediately! I love my children very much and I'm so worried she is using them to hurt me.
LOUIS SILK - 4-Mar-18 @ 10:27 PM
Great dad being brok - Your Question:
Hi I want to know when you have first court appearance and cafcass officer see you is this meant to be one on one only with no other peopme to to be present as my ex has collaborated with another to fabricate false accusations to police which have been dropped with no further action which was designed just so my ex could claim lefal aid but on my court appearance I believe my ex had requested my other ex to sit in on the cafcass meeting and she also tried to make herslef a mckenzie friend which I was able to reject her coming in the room as a person with a personal interest in the case I just beed clarification on the cafcass officers dealings so I can complain about the treatmebt I recieved as the cafcass officer tried to speak on my behalf and when I asked the judges somrthing she attempted to cut me off and I told you dont speak for me you are not my solicitor and I believe she is now hindering me getting access to my child. Any ideas on what I can do in this situation.
Our Response:
You may wish to join and ask this question via our Separated Dads forum, as we don't have any knowledge of how Cafcass works from an insider's/court point of view.
SeparatedDads - 15-Feb-18 @ 10:31 AM
Hi i want to know when you have first court appearance and cafcass officer see you is this meant to be one on one only with no other peopme to to be present as my ex has collaborated with another to fabricate false accusations to police which have been dropped with no further action which was designed just so my ex could claim lefal aid but on my court appearance i believe my ex had requested my other ex to sit in on the cafcass meeting and she also tried to make herslef a mckenzie friend which i was able to reject her coming in the room as a person with a personal interest in the case i just beed clarification on the cafcass officers dealings so i can complain about the treatmebt i recieved as the cafcass officer tried to speak on my behalf and when i asked the judges somrthing she attempted to cut me off and i told you dont speak for me you are not my solicitor and i believe she is now hindering me getting access to my child. Any ideas on what i can do in this situation.
Great dad being brok - 14-Feb-18 @ 1:27 PM
Can a CAFCASS report be challenged? When I met with CAFCASS I said to my solicitor that I felt that they had already sided with my ex-wife and I have just received the report, most of what I spoke about seems to have been omitted. There seems to be lots of mention of the parents being hostile to one another (which is bad for our son), yet all of this has been generated by my ex. There has been no mention of the threats, verbal abuse that I've been on the receiving end of, the manipulating and controlling behaviour and generally putting our son in the middle of thing that are for adults. I've tried to make things as amicable as possible, paying for nursery costs when I wasn't obliged to do so, and even a holiday on one occasion.I filed to the court for 50:50, she counter filed a month later that I have our son every other weekend and one night for dinner. CAFCASS' one sided report is now supporting her, which makes me think what have I done!?
Stu - 1-Feb-18 @ 12:50 PM
Key - Your Question:
Hi my ex and I spilt up before my daughter was born His seen her few times not provide at all. Resently I found out his not what he said he was He told me he was 33 year old man But his passport and birth certificate says his 44 his changed his name 3 times in 3 years. I don’t know who this man is. He won’t tell me and now his taking me to court and telling me he will get legal right as his not on birth certificate Is this true? Will the judge not looking into his past and ask who he is. As he said you wouldn’t. I found out he had ccj and now his changed his name again his manged to wipe his history clear and start again! He passport says one age and his Facebook friends says his another. I don’t know who he is We was only together 3 months when I fell pregnant Please help I worried as if he can change his name get passport in different ages etc what says he won’t run off with my daughter Please help Will the court grant him legal rights etc
Our Response:
In this instance, if you are unsure who this man is, he could be committing fraud or have something to hide on some level, so it is worth gathering all the information you have and approaching the police on an informal level. If he is not on the birth certificate, then he currently has no rights to your child. If you bring the fact up in court that you don't know his proper identity, then you can use this as an objection. Plus, the fact he has changed his names various times and you have had to try to track his real identity via the police.
SeparatedDads - 22-Jan-18 @ 10:05 AM
Hi my ex and I spilt up before my daughter was born
His seen her few times not provide at all.
Resently I found out his not what he said he was
He told me he was 33 year old man
But his passport and birth certificate says his 44 his changed his name 3 times in 3 years.
I don’t know who this man is. He won’t tell me and now his taking me to court and telling me he will get legal right as his not on birth certificate
Is this true? Will the judge not looking into his past and ask who he is. As he said you wouldn’t.
I found out he had ccj and now his changed his name again his manged to wipe his history clear and start again! He passport says one age and his Facebook friends says his another.
I don’t know who he is
We was only together 3 months when I fell pregnant
Please help
I worried as if he can change his name get passport in different ages etc what says he won’t run off with my daughter
Please help
Will the court grant him legal rights etc
Key - 21-Jan-18 @ 3:24 PM
Please can anyone help with this?
I have a court order for contact for a few hours during week, 10 hours every Sun and 1 sleepover 1st Sat every month however over the past 5 years my ex has allowed me so much more.
From August 2016 till May 2017 my children had 103 sleepovers as well as spending 4 hours with them 3 days par week.
From May until September she tried to sell family home but I was not allowed to sign it over as it was classed as an asset in my IVA so all contact was hit and miss.
I applied to have order enforced but on First hearing she filed a huge list of reasons why contact should be stopped.All lies as I have recordings of her asking kids if they want to spend 2 weeks with me from 20th August and several others asking similar.
My question
Can this recording be used as evidence to prove when it suits I can have loads of contact?
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Re: Communication With Your Children
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Re: Coping With Life as a Separated Dad
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